If we want to stop the suicide of our innocent children, they have to understand. You have to hold yourself back. They have to be motivated to take decisions according to their interest. You have to stop comparing your own two children.
Two children reached Kota to fulfill their dreams and chose death. A total of 23 suicides in the last eight months . All the children who come to this city come with the intention of becoming engineers and doctors. Sometimes these dreams happen to them and mostly to the parents. In this war of dreams, some escape from the world without a fight, some even win. But one thing is certain that the success rate in this war is not even one percent.
If we look at some statistics, the whole picture emerges. Every year 10-12 lakh kids give JEE hoping to do B.Tech from IITs. A large number of students cannot give JEE Advanced because their intermediate score is less than 75%. Even today the number of seats in IITs is around 16.5 thousand. This year, more than 20 lakh students have appeared in the NEET exam so far. The total number of MBBS seats is still a little over one lakh. That means twenty contenders for one seat.
Don’t Know How Many Tests
Coaching can see one going through daily tests, weekly tests, monthly tests and who knows how many tests. A child is shunned for the first time after getting less than any marks in the whole class. But, if this sequence continues for the second, third time, the mental pressure starts to increase on him. Coaching never says that a particular child does not have the potential to become an engineer or a doctor. He has the potential to become a lawyer.
Sometimes knowingly and sometimes unknowingly, they don’t want to disclose this because the child’s return means an annual cost of Rs. 1.5 lakhs as a direct loss and no coaching person wants this because he knows that if he comes back the parents will get in. Affiliate coaching as they have come to gain access.
Don’t Force Your Will on Children
Senior Psychologist and Counselor Dr. Abha Awasthi says – parents are at the root of the problem. If they stop imposing their will, their child can easily do well in another area. But parents decide their child’s career at that age, when he doesn’t even know about career. Then the feeding process begins. She says that a 15-16 year old child suddenly moves out of the house and lives in a hostel and feels lonely. Even the parents on the phone cannot stop themselves from asking for food and asking how many marks they got in the test.
An IQ Test is Required
Dr. Abha clearly says that today’s requirement is that any child should undergo aptitude test, career counselling, psychometric test, IQ test as well. . These tests are in a position to determine the future of any child. But, parents do not feel the need for this as they have decided that their son or daughter will become a doctor. Many times they decide on the basis that they had a dream, but for some reason could not fulfill it. They are deciding because their friend’s child is also busy with this endeavor.
Every Child is Special, We Just Need to Recognize
Another psychologist Dr. Parul says that actually every child is special. We do not recognize that is why the problem arises. Dr. Parul agrees with Dr. Abha’s opinion. He believes that with a little effort it becomes easy to find out which field a child is really meant for. Whatever the decision after the test, it will be right for us to send the child in that direction. There are definite disadvantages to bumping into the crowd. Both experts suggest that parents get their child tested by 10th standard.
Based on the report will decide the way forward. You can collect physical equipment with money but it is very difficult to take a child with music to medical. Whenever decisions are changed under pressure, the results will not be good. This is certain. They have to understand if we want to stop the suicide of our innocent children. You have to hold yourself back. They have to be motivated to take decisions according to their interest. You have to stop comparing your own two children. Success will also come and so will the successful child who has gone to coaching.